I help introverts who are ‘too rational’ or ‘too nice’:
- Stop overthinking or adapting endlessly.
- Engage their emotions and communicate effectively.
- Taking action on their terms with confidence and fulfillment.
To experience growth and create meaning from inside out.
Get immediate insight into your growth possibilities with a short Quiz + Free concrete advice.
And find out what I can do for you.
Set your own course.
Develop your inner compass.
More confidence. More freedom. More impact.
Do you feel like you’re stuck?
Your gift is to think fast, solve problems and adapt yourself. But you lack fulfilment.
Your brainpower is no longer enough in these complex times. And it’s just no fun. You might lose focus. Or maybe your job.
You want to grow. But as long as external expectations determine what you do, you lack a sense of meaning.
As much as you like solving things for others, maybe it’s okay to be a little less kind and sensible.
Maybe you can do something meaningful for yourself first. Develop self-awareness and act with confidence.
In this extroverted world, we need people who stay in touch with themselves.
When you lead from within you create better results. Then “introvert” becomes your superpower.
Do you recognize these challenges?
Within yourself
• Perfectionism
• Not knowing what you want
• Doubts and insecurities
In your relationships
• Not being able to say ‘no’
• Effective collaboration
• Big worries about others’ opinion
In your work
• Procrastination
• Finding suitable work
• Too many choices in too little time
You’re not alone in this.
It is not your fault how ” sensible” you have become. Our culture rewards control and obedience. Being rational is encouraged, so that is how we are formed.
It keeps us safe, dignified and accepted.
Vulnerability and ‘not knowing’ is scary. But if we rely exclusively on our brainpower in these complex times, we become stuck.
Don’t forget your body: embodiment.
Many of my clients are not very connected to their bodies.
- Disconnected from your body means not being in touch with your feelings.
- Not being in touch with your feelings means not knowing what your needs are.
- Not knowing what your needs are means not acting from your values.
How can you determine your own course, without an inner compass? It is not your circumstances that shape your life, but your decisions and actions.
I can help you with that, without being woolly.
Emotions = data
Our 2,000,000-year-old brain is designed to help you stay alive, not to make you happy. That’s why we’re experts in fault finding, to avoid danger.
So we’re running on ancient survival software. We can complement this with “lost” data in our bodies: our internal senses, emotions and dreams. Only from this felt sense of being we can know what matters to us.
Did you know that you use the same parts of your brain when you make decisions as when you distinguish between physical senses?
This means you can train embodiment. The more in your body, the better your decisions.
More insight into your options?
Let’s talk.
You will receive the same coaching as my clients. 40 euros, via Zoom, no strings attached. We create clarity, and see if we’re a fit.
Book here your spot
Or first take the free Quiz to find out where you stand now.
Hi, I’m Niels
Learn to engage my emotions and stop accomodating, I lived through this myself to become centered. Out of my thinking head and into my body. Confronting and valuable.
I combine several accredited coaching programs with 20+ years as an actor and communication trainer. No-nonsense, curious and warm. But also slightly disruptive and intense. I don’t judge and don’t want anything from you.
I bring you closer to yourself, so that you will experience meaning and fulfillment from within. Without the doubt, stress and guilt..
My super power: highly sensitive with humor & honesty. I listen beyond the words to what you really need (not what you tell yourself). I tell you what I think you need to hear (not what your friends say).
Hi, I’m Niels
To engage my emotions and stop accommodating to become centered, I lived through that myself. Out of my thinking head and into my body. Confronting and valuable.
I combine several accredited coaching programs with 20+ years as an actor and communication trainer No-nonsense, curious and warm. But also slightly disruptive and intense. I don’t judge and don’t want anything from you.
I bring you closer to yourself, so that you will experience meaning and fulfillment from within. Without the doubt, stress and guilt..
My super power: highly sensitive with humor & honesty. I listen beyond the words to what you really need (not what you tell yourself). I tell you what I think you need to hear (not what your friends say).
Niels works intuitively, that is where his strength lies. Really needed for a ultra-rational person like me. He listens well and continuously challenges me to combine head and heart, to do more soul-searching. Effective. It gave me new insights that are helping me a lot.
Highly recommended if you want to break free from your own (thinking) boxes and are looking for another way to listen to yourself. Niels can unleash a shift from thinking to feeling with few words. Very valuable.
Niels is a special man. He leaves me in control. Through incisive questions and using his methodology, he ensures that I explore myself first and see what’s really going on. So he’s not saving a victim, but a real enabler of personal progress.
Do you want to stop:
- Feeling guilty
- Doubting yourself
- Worrying at night
- Beat yourself up
- Looking to others for approval
- Randomly do what you think is expected of you
Do you want to learn to:
Grow as a person
- More confidence
- Saying “no” effectively
- Experience more ease and energy
Creating from within
- Do what you really want to do
- Have more influence
- Experience more connection
Develop in your work
- Have the right focus
- More satisfaction
- Contribute to something bigger
Your inner world is full of possibilities
I help translate your inner world into the right actions in the outer world
– by disrupting your thinking, questioning your questions, and engaging your feelings,
so that you start to remember how powerful and creative you are.
The BENEFITS for you:
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To take good care of yourself
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Being able to connect to your emotions
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Get back you energy and fulfillment
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Valuable relationships (with yourself and others)
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Insight into who you are and what’s important for you
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Tools for effective behaviour and communication
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Sense of meaning, living on your terms
To bring you from your situation NOW to your PURPOSE, there are 5 domains we work on:
1. Your behaviour
2. Your feeling
3. Your mindset
4. Your strategy
5. Your ‘being’
This combination ensures that you will actually apply your insights.
On the other side of ‘nice’ is …’free’
On the other side of ‘ratio’ is…. ‘connection’.
On the other side of ‘accommodating’ is…. ‘aliveness’.
How can I help you?
I reserve 1 1/2 hours for you. The Clarification Session costs a one-time fee of 40,- It can be done in my space in Amsterdam, or via Zoom.
A Clarity Session gives you insight into what is blocking you and what you can do.
To me there’s no difference between this conversation with you and my regular clients.
We talk, you’ll get some insights and we can see if there’s a match.
Twice a month, on Thursday evening or Friday afternoon, I hold a Clarity Session. Reserve your spot here.
